I'm so excited! This is my first time blogging, hope I'm interesting enough >.< First off, a little bit about myself. My name is Kyla and I love sweets (like candy and stuff); thus---SweetKyla! I am a college student and plan to major Economics.......hope I' smart enough o_O Anywayz.....school has been pretty busy lately with lotz of test and homework. But I find my personal life much more interesting than my academic career. Even if there are a few rare exceptions. Lately, I'm not on such good terms with my roommate. Let's call her Muffin, so that we're not naming any names here, and her boyfriend Cheese. So we were all friends during our freshmen year of college right? Then around Dec. of last year (2007), they started going out....I mean I was all happy with them and stuff, but things just got more awkward. A lil' background first:
* I was silly and pretty stupid to make out with Cheese and had an undefined "dating thing" going on for 2 weeks back in Oct. 2007. I wish I could erase the past....but alas...it's impossible..............with present technology. Gosh darn it!
* Muffin is very special......she was Queen Bee in high school, but now in college, she has to regain her position slowly. She also has problems with her parents, they either want her to get a boyfriend fast so that she can get married before she's 25 or they want her to change her major from Pre-med to BioChem to Law to English to Business to Math to Comp Sci to Economics............you get the idea.....>.<
* Cheese is a very troubled boy......his parents are divorced and he blames that for everything. He is also horny.......I mean seriously, would a guy sleep, and I mean literally REM cycling, at 4 in the morning with 3 other girls on the same bed?! Well, me and Muffin and Muffin's roommate (let's call her Cookie) all slept in the same bed with Cheese. I know, that was such a bad decision right? Something's bound to go wrong when you do this kind of thing more than once............and so this lasted for about 3 or so weeks......
* Did I mention that Muffin and Cheese look like they're anorexic....I mean they could fly away if the wind blew a little harder.....sheesh.....they're have such unhealthy diets and lifestyles.....
* Eventually all college students get together and "making outs" happen.......
* I must have been under some devilish influence to start brushing up against Cheese when we were all in bed at night...........is this female hormones acting up? Stupid Kyla, stupid idiot Kyla...........so we did a so called dating thing for 2 weeks before he decided he needed to break up with me.
* It must have been really unimportant to me because I didn't cry, I mean I didn't even feel sad or depressed when we broke up (apparently from a nonexistent relationship, or one built solely on physical attraction anyways). Shouldn't I be in tears and have a rebound period .....No .........Kyla was just very embarrased to admit to other people what happened.
* Long story short, the pair hooked up by Dec. 07 and have been going out ever since til now.
This year, Muffin and I have become roommates. We made an agreement last year that Cheese can not sleep over in "our" room ever.
I also live near my home, so I usually go home on weekends and so I told her that if they needed private time for hinky-pinkying, they should do so only when I'm not on campus. I thought that I was respecting them and being tolerant and fair.
Well..........I was apparently wrong.
Cheese would now constantly show up in my room...and be on Muffin's bed ....they're always either kissing and sucking each other's tongues or making out and touching each other.......I mean a little further down, Cheese's hand would be in Muffin's pants....>.< Arghhhh..........didn't I just told them to do that when I'm not physically present......I thought that was very rude of them to violate our agreement. Okay ....I'll let that go, they're passionate lovers that need to PDA because they're insecure......or at least that's what I thought. Next thing you know, I go home on Saturday......come back Sunday night, and the door is locked. Well I have a key, I turn the key and I hear bedsheets shuffling and a loud mumbling yell "Stop. Wait. Hold On." Now ladies and gentlemen, what do you think is going on? The pair were sleeping naked together, but not sexing....so they tell me. I specifically told them not to sex in my room.....if you're gonna do so, please do so in Cheese's own room and don't invade my space like that. Ugh..........this happened for like the whole year from when we started school to right now, and I expect this trend to continue. So I discuss this with Muffin. And the answer I get is : "Kyla, I'm not gonna change my ways. " "Kyla, we're not gonna stop doing things in the room." I mean WTF, what is that suppose to mean. I really thought that I was considerate enough to give them the weekends to do their private thing, the least I expect back was some respect and decency when I return. They also obviously don't leave the room on weekends because the room is always a mess after I have sweeped the floor on the Friday before I left. I come back, there's candy on the floor, pizza toppings (they've been eating pizza every weekend for the past 4 weekends) , and all kinds of trash.....they also don't pick it up during the weekdays either.....so I have to become the maid and get our room looking decent again....>.< I was thinking that maybe I'm being sensitive and selfish by thinking this way. But I've spoken to at least 7 friends of mine that are telling me to do one or all of the following:
1. file a formal compliant to our residential college associate
2. request a transfer of rooms, so that I can get a new roommate at a different dorm room.
3. Talk/negoiate with her and him so that we can have a compromise
4. Beat the shit out of my roommate, the bitch
5. Beat the shit out of Cheese, the deutchbag (not sure I spelled that right)
6. @$$%%^%^$%#@$
But I really didn't want this to get ugly between us, since we're all friends. But I get the feeling that I'm being used and that the word "friend" really isn't defining what she treats me as.
So my alternative to avoid this bloody mess was to set up a schedule of when Cheese can be in the room. So when he's in the room, I'll leave, and when I'm in the room, he's not allowed.
Hopefully by implementing this plan, things should work out fine.
For two days, I've set this up..........it doesn't seem to be doing much.
Well, right now.......I am calmly angry (I'm not violent angry) at them, so I'm giving them the silent treatment for 2 whole days now. Cheese hasn't shown up much around my room.....but I suspect that he's just staying away for a brief period of time hoping I will cool down and then he can revert to his old ways again.
I'm just so annoyed by their nonexistent shamefulness.....they have no integrity or shame. They are pissing me off seriously........I think I deserve better. The fact that they also haven't done anything to try an reform their wicked ways is also giving me the impression that they really don't care how I feel.
I just don't know what else to do if this continues. To file a complaint or to do anything formal would result in a destruction of our friend.....everything will be lost, our friendship destroyed, and things will get ugly.......I really never want to get to that point.
What can I do in this situation? Am I in the right or wrong? IS there a different solution to this dilemma? Are they being right by acting like the misunderstood lovers that the world just hates because they are shameless?
...........ooookkk.................I'm done grumbling for now.......I do feel a little better now that all this is written out and I really hope someone can give me some pointers as to what to do about this.
I'll try to keep you all posted on what happens next. Ask me anything if you think it'll help in making your suggestion.